| You've been hurt for the last time. You've drawn the | | | | give you their best self. If you are weighing whether |
| line to end the aggravation. You declare, "No More!" | | | | or not they deserve another chance, find hope in |
| Now they are sincerely asking for another chance. "I'll | | | | that I see people change all of the time. People make |
| do anything", they cry out with a trembling voice. | | | | mistakes and mistakes can be corrected. Sometimes |
| Their hurt moves you. What if they really mean it | | | | it takes the fear and the pain of losing someone you |
| this time? How can you be sure? | | | | love for their eyes to open and their behavior to |
| Keep these 5 points in mind: | | | | change. Hopefully, this will be a life changing event for |
| 1) You don't have to give them another chance. | | | | them, one that will produce their best self. Getting |
| Remembering this point first can save you a lot of | | | | another chance is really not that hard. Most people |
| unnecessary thinking and unnecessary conversations. | | | | are forgiving in nature. They believe that people can |
| 2) If they are sincere, they will keep their promises. | | | | change and hope that they will change. Maybe this |
| If they said they will stop yelling, then they will stop. | | | | time, they will truly change. |
| If they said they will go to therapy, then they will | | | | Be very careful in this decision as to whether or not |
| schedule appointments and go (with or without you). | | | | to give them another chance. Commonly, people who |
| 3) They won't pressure you. They will give you | | | | are striving to get another chance only are seeking |
| plenty of time and space. This point will speak | | | | the combination to the lock on your heart. Be careful. |
| volumes on how sincere they truly are. Manipulative | | | | These people can be hard to spot because they do |
| people won't give you the time you need to make | | | | make an effort. They will say the things you've |
| the decision that is best for you. They want what is | | | | wanted to hear. They even go to therapy which |
| best for them. | | | | they previously had sworn they would never do. |
| 4) You will notice more thoughtful listening. Their | | | | These trips to the therapist are used to get |
| attitude will be humble, not arrogant or pouting. Trust | | | | professional input on figuring out the combination to |
| your instincts. They cannot fake a sincere attitude. | | | | your heart so that they can get their foot back in |
| Their sincerity will hold up even if you tell them "No" | | | | the door. |
| or set some form of limitation on them. | | | | Give this article to the person who is seeking another |
| 5) You should see an 80% to 90% improvement in | | | | chance. Even with these 5 points in front of them, an |
| areas of their behavior that you had previously | | | | insincere person will not do these expectations |
| complained about, maybe even 100%. | | | | despite the fairness of these requests. |
| This isn't asking for much. You only want them to | | | | |